I am not talking about your Title. If you don’t like it, change what you do or change your job and there is nothing else you can do about it.

I am talking about your internal labels. Labels that you secretly love. Labels that you want others to place on you without you having to speak them out loud.

A few examples

Smart
Funny
Ultra-smart
Uber-creative
Maverick
Iconoclast
Genius
Genuinely likeable

You get the idea. These labels you secretly love are generally (secretly) influence your actions and behaviors.

Criticize too much? May be “smart” is the label you secretly love.

Can’t say “No” to requests easily?  May be “likeable” is the label you secretly love.

Rather than trying to change your actions, re-visit the labels you secretly love. Decode them and it gets easier to change your behavior.