Do you have internal conversations?
All of us do.
The real question should be:
Do you have internal conversations that are helping you or hurting you?
Raising Your Awareness
Just raising your awareness about the power of internal conversations, to help you or hurt you already has set you on a good path to manage internal conversations. Whether you believe it or not, you do have the power to influence your internal conversations. For God’s sake, they are YOUR internal conversations!!
Two questions to think about:
1. Who or what is parked in your headspace rent-free?
When you run something over and over in your head, just know that someone or something is parked in your head rent-free. If you let them, they will continue to park themselves ad infinitum. If you say it’s OK, think about it again. There is only movie that can be running in your head at a time. If that time is taken up by someone or something that is parked there rent-free, there is no room to run a more empowering movie.
2. Who are you upgrading to VIP status automatically?
Sadly, many people upgrade the wrong people to VIP status in their heads. You might relate to this too. If you are really upset to lose your peace about something someone said, immediately know that you just upgraded that “someone” to VIP status automatically.
Otherwise, why else would their words mean so much to you?
The truth might hurt. What hurts more later is your refusal to acknowledge the truth now.
What Might Be Hurting You
In this approach, you might be having internal conversations about the past, present and the future. The past here is about blaming one or more person or situation that led to your present. The future is a fairy tale. And, in the present, you are mostly manufacturing excuses for inaction.
You know that this approach is not helping.
What Might Be Helping You
In this approach, you might be having internal conversations about the past, present and the future. The past here is about learning that you can bring to your present. The future is for planning. And, in the present, you are mostly thinking about current actions with the highest leverage.
Now, this starts becoming more empowering.
Your internal conversations have a lot of influence and power on where you are going. The quicker you take control of them, lesser the interference on your path to get to your destination.