Once you read this, you will see that it is obvious. Most of the times, we are blind to things that are close to us.
Next time, when you get some “real” feedback from someone that cares for you, resist the temptation to defend and start learning.
“Pity the leader caught between unloving critics and uncritical lovers”
– John Gardner
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