Have you ever been deeply hurt by someone telling you something or
talking something about you? We all have experienced that feeling some
time or the other. How do you handle these things?
One of my mentors suggested an approach that has worked well for me over the years. Here is the concept in a nutshell.
Whenver we feel bad because someone said something to us or something
about us, the important thing to remember is that the words themselves
have no power. They are a bunch of words nothing else. The power is
actually given to those words by our conscious choice. Suppose the same
words were spoken by a stranger or a lunatic, immediately we dismiss
what we heard and strip off all the power from those words. The problem
comes when we hear this from someone that is close to us. Instantly, we
load these words with more power than required. Worse, when we
misinterpret what we heard, we can make our life a mess as the person
who spoke may not even know the kind of impact he or she has caused in
I am not saying that you should never get upset with anyone whatever they say. All I want to share is that we need to be aware of the fact that – at all times we choose to give the power to any words that we hear. Words themselves have no power.